There are a few reliable Truisms about mental health. One is that if you can’t accept something that’s blocking your growth then you can’t heal or move on.
Remember, Recovery isn’t about getting the life you choose, it’s about choosing the best life you can create. That requires acceptance of what you cannot change, even though it may be the last thing you want to do.
Many people who seek help but end up running in circles are people who back away when they come too close to seeing this clearly. For me, I needed to accept that there’s a certain kind of person I’ll never be, a person who is level, calm under pressure. I also had to accept that I was needy and angry because things hadn’t gone my way. I ran so hard from this that I lived in a drug induced psychosis for several years in my mid 20s.
But letting my perfect ideal fall away brought me back and allowed me to begin making the most of the strengths I had.
This is a scary thing to do, getting honest about what’s true about yourself and working with that instead of fighting to have or be what you think you need. But if you’re stuck, it could be the rock you’ve tied around your own neck. A rock of expectations you’ve confused with your identity.
You are more than the most you think you can be. You are enormous and what you are has its own beauty. Like most scary things in life, the fear is the only real obstacle and once faced, the difficulty it promised simply falls away.
You can let whatever it is go. If you’re always in pain and afraid, if you’re always in the fight, there’s a good chance you’re resisting. There’s a good chance it’s time to let something go. You may need support to do it, but only you can choose to try.
I believe in you.
